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27.338.5The prevalence of virginity varies from culture to culture. In cultures which place importance on a females virginity at marriage, the age at which virginity is lost is in effect determined by the age at which marriages would normally take place in those cultures, as well as the minimum marriage age set by the laws of the country where the marriage takes place. 52In a crosscultural study, At what age do women and men have their first sexual intercourse? (2003), Michael Bozon of the French Institut national dtudes dmographiques found that contemporary cultures fall into three broad categories. 52 In the first group, the data indicated families arranging marriage for daughters as close to puberty as possible with significantly older men. Age of men at sexual initiation in these societies is at later ages than that of women, but is often extramarital. This group included subSaharan Africa (the study listed Mali , Senegal and Ethiopia ). The study considered the Indian subcontinent to also fall into this group, although data was only available from Nepal . 52In the second group, the data indicated families encouraged daughters to delay marriage, and to abstain from sexual activity before that time. However, sons are encouraged to gain experience with older women or prostitutes before marriage. Age of men at sexual initiation in these societies is at lower ages than that of women. This group includes Latin cultures, both from southern Europe ( Portugal , Greece and Romania are noted) and from Latin America ( Brazil , Chile , and the Dominican Republic ). The study considered many Asian societies to also fall into this group, although matching data was only available from Thailand . 52In the third group, age of men and women at sexual initiation was more closely matched. There were two subgroups, however. In nonLatin, Catholic countries ( Poland and Lithuania are mentioned), age at sexual initiation was higher, suggesting later marriage and reciprocal valuing of male and female virginity. The same pattern of late marriage and reciprocal valuing of virginity was reflected in Singapore and Sri Lanka . The study considered China and Vietnam to also fall into this group, although data were not available. 52Finally, in northern and eastern European countries, age at sexual initiation was lower, with both men and women involved in sexual activity before any union formation. The study listed Switzerland , Germany and the Czech Republic as members of this group. 52According to a 2001 UNICEF survey, in 10 out of 12 developed nations with available data, more than two thirds of young people have had sexual intercourse while still in their teens. In Denmark, Finland, Germany, Iceland, Norway, the United Kingdom and the United States , the proportion is over 80. In Australia, the United Kingdom and the United States, approximately 25 of 15yearolds and 50 of 17yearolds have had sex. 59 A 2002 international survey sought to study the sexual behavior of teenagers . 33,943 students aged 15, from 24 countries, completed a selfadministered, anonymous, classroom survey, consisting of a standard questionnaire, developed by the HBSC (Health Behaviour in Schoolaged Children) international research network. The survey revealed that the majority of the students were still virgins (they had no experience of sexual intercourse), and, among those who were sexually active, the majority (82) used contraception. 60 In a 2005 Kaiser Family Foundation study of US teenagers, 29 of teens reported feeling pressure to have sex, 33 of sexually active teens reported being in a relationship where they felt things were moving too fast sexually, and 24 had done something sexual they didnt really want to do. 61 Several polls have indicated peer pressure as a factor in encouraging both girls and boys to have sex. 62 63Some studies suggest that people commence sexual activity at an earlier age than previous generations. 64 65 However, the 2005 Durex Global sex survey found that people worldwide are having sex for the first time at an average age of 17.3, ranging from 15.6 in Iceland to 19.8 in India 65 (though evidence has shown that the average age is not a good indicator of sexual initiation, and that percentages of sexually initiated youth at each age are preferred). 66 67 A 2008 survey of UK teenagers between the ages of 14 and 17 (conducted by YouGov for Channel 4 ), showed that only 6 of these teenagers intended to wait until marriage before having sex. 68According to a 2011 CDC study, in the 15to19yearold age group 43 percent of males and 48 percent of females in the United States reported never having an oppositesex partner. 69The rates of teenage pregnancy vary and range from 143 per 1000 girls in some subSaharan African countries to 2.9 per 1000 in South Korea. The rate for the United States is 52.1 per 1000, the highest in the developed world and about four times the European Union average. 59 70 The teenage pregnancy rates between countries must take into account the level of general sex education available and access to contraceptive options. Many Western countries have instituted sex education programs, the main objective of which is to reduce such pregnancies and STDs. In 1996, the United States federal government shifted the objective of sex education towards abstinenceonly sex education programs, promoting sexual abstinence before marriage (i.e., virginity) and prohibiting information on birth control and contraception. In 2004, President George W. Bush announced a FiveYear Global HIVAIDS Strategy, also known as the Presidents Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief (PEPFAR), 71 which committed the U.S. to provide 15 billion over five years toward AIDS relief in 15 countries in Africa and the Caribbean , and in Vietnam . 72 A part of the funding was earmarked specifically for abstinenceonlyuntilmarriage programs.In one peerreviewed study about virginity pledges, male pledgers were 4.1 times more likely to remain virgins by age 25 than those who did not pledge (25 vs 6), and estimated that female pledgers were 3.5 times more likely to remain virgins by age 25 than those who did not pledge (21 vs 6). 31 32Social psychologySome cultural anthropologists argue that romantic love and sexual jealousy are universal features of human relationships. 73 Social values related to virginity reflect both sexual jealousy and ideals of romantic love, and appear to be deeply embedded in human nature. citation needed Psychology explores the connection between thought and behavior. Seeking understanding of social (or antisocial) behaviors includes sexual behavior. Joan Kahn and Kathryn London studied U.S. women married between 1965 and 1985 to see if virginity at marriage influenced risk of divorce. In this study, women who were virgins at the time of marriage were shown to have less marital upset. It was shown that when observable characteristics were controlled, women who were nonvirgins at the time of marriage had a higher risk for divorce. However, it was also shown that the link between premarital sex and the risk of divorce were attributed to prior unobserved differences, such as deviating from norms. 74A study conducted by Smith and Schaffer found that someones first sexual experience has been linked to their sexual performance for years to come. Participants whose first intercourse was pleasant showed more satisfaction in their current sex lives. 75 A different study showed that when compared with virgins, nonvirgins have been shown to have higher levels of independence, less desire for achievement, more criticism from society and a greater level of deviance. 76EthicsMain articles: Sexual morality and Norm (sociology)Human sexual activity, like many other kinds of activity engaged in by humans, is generally influenced by social rules that are culturally specific and vary widely. These social rules are referred to as sexual morality (what can and can not be done by societys rules) and sexual norms (what is and is not expected). There are a number of groups within societies promoting their views of sexual morality in a variety of ways, including through sex education, religious teachings, seeking commitments or virginity pledges, and other means.Most countries have laws which set a minimum marriage age , with the most common age being 18 years, reduced to 16 in special circumstances, typically when the female partner is pregnant, but the actual age at first marriage can be considerably higher. Laws also prescribe the minimum age at which a person is permitted to engage in sex, commonly called the age of consent . Social (and legal) attitudes toward the appropriate age of consent have drifted upwards in modern times. For example, while ages from 10 to 13 were typically acceptable in Western countries during the mid19th century, 77 the end of the 19th century and the beginning of the 20th century were marked by changing attitudes resulting in raising the ages of consent to ages generally ranging from 16 to18. 78 Today, the age of consent varies from 12 years (or onset of puberty) to 21, but 16 to 18 is the most common range of ages of consent, but some jurisdictions also have a closeinage exception, allowing two adolescents (as young as 12 years of age) to have sex with each other provided their ages are not more than 2 years apart. Some countries outlaw any sex outside marriage entirely.Historically, and still in many countries and jurisdictions today, a females sexual experience is sometimes considered a relevant factor in the prosecution of a perpetrator of rape. citation needed Also, historically, a man who took a females virginity could be forced to marry her. In addition, children born as a result of premarital sex were subject to various legal and social disabilities such as being considered illegitimate and thus barred from inheriting from the putative father s estate , from bearing the fathers surname or title, and support from the putative father. Many of these legal disabilities on children born from extramarital relationships have been abolished by law in most Western countries, though social ostracism may still apply.Religious viewsMain article: Religion and sexualityAll major religions have moral codes covering issues of sexuality, morality, and ethics. Though these moral codes do not address issues of sexuality directly, they seek to regulate the situations which can give rise to sexual interest and to influence peoples sexual activities and practices. citation needed However, the impact of religious teaching has at times been limited. For example, though most religions disapprove of premarital sexual relations , it has always been widely practiced citation needed . Nevertheless, these religious codes have always had a strong influence on peoples attitudes to sexual issues.BuddhismMain article: Buddhism and sexualityThe most common formulation of Buddhist ethics for lay followers are the Five Precepts and the Eightfold Path . These precepts take the form of voluntary, personal undertakings, not divine mandate or instruction. The third of the Five Precepts is To refrain from committing sensual misconduct. 79 Sensual misconduct is defined in the Pali Canon as follows:Abandoning sensual misconduct, a man abstains from sensual misconduct. He does not get sexually involved with those who are protected by their mothers, their fathers, their brothers, their sisters, their relatives, or their Dhamma those with husbands, those who entail punishments, or even those crowned with flowers by another man. 80Virginity, specifically, is not mentioned in the Canon. On the other hand, Buddhist monks and nuns of most traditions are expected to refrain from all sexual activity and the Buddha is said to have admonished his followers to avoid unchastity as if it were a pit of burning cinders. 81The 3rd of the 5 precepts in Buddhism warns against any sensual misconduct, though the exact definition of it is unclear. Buddhists have been more open compared to other religions about the subject of sex and that has expanded over time. As with Christianity, although a traditionalist would assume that one should not have sex before marriage, many Buddhists do. There are different branches of Buddhism, like tantric and puritan, and they have very different views on the subject of sex, yet managed to get along. Tantric is a Sanskrit word it is typically translated as two things or person being bound together. In the time of Gotama, the man who came to be known as Buddha, sex was not taboo. The world the prince lived in was filled with earthly pleasures. Women naked from the waist above were in the court solely to serve the prince. Gotamas father even constructed a chamber of love. Prince Gotama and founded the beginnings of Buddhism, which included the denial of earthly pleasures in order to follow the Middle Way. The stark contrast between the way Buddha lived his life before and after rejecting the material world may arguably be one of the reasons Buddhism evolved the way it did. In the present, the mother of a Buddha does not have to be a virgin she must have never had a child, however.HinduismIn Hinduism, premarital virginity on the part of the bride is considered ideal. 82 The prevailing Hindu marriage ceremony, or the Vedic wedding , centers around the Kanyadan ritual, which literally means gift of a virgin, by father of the maiden through which the Hindus believe they gain greatest spiritual merit, and marriages of the daughters are considered a spiritual obligation. 83 The purity of women is especially valued in South Asia, where Hinduism is most commonly practiced.Sex had never been a taboo in ancient India and intactness of the hymen had nothing to do with virginity. 84SikhismIn Sikhism, sexual activity occurs only between married individuals. Sikhism advises against premarital sex, as it has a high potential of being an indulgence of lust ( kaam , or extreme sexual desire). Sikhism teaches that young women must have decent modesty (sharam) because the honor ( izzat ) of her family could be jeopardized. Sexual activity and even living together prior to marriage is not allowed in Sikhism. Virginity is an important aspect of spirituality and it has to be preserved before marriage, or when one is ready to move into another sacred state of being with their significant other. 85JudaismMain article: Judaism and sexualityPremarital sex is forbidden in Judaism. In fact, the precedent for the mitzvot which are related in Deuteronomy 22:2529, which regard what happens when a man rapes a virgin, may well have been set at Shechem after the rape of Dinah (cf. Genesis 34).There are other references in the Torah to virginity. In the first reference, in Genesis 19:8 , Lot offers his virgin daughters to the people of Sodom for sexual purposes in an attempt to protect his guests (cf. Genesis 19:411), with the implication that the people of Sodom would be more likely to accept the offer in view of the girls virginity than they would otherwise. This also sets the precedent for Israelites to avoid homosexual activity (cf. Leviticus 18:22, 20:13. 86 ).The next reference is at Genesis 24:16 , where Eliezer is seeking a wife for his master, Abrahams son. He meets Rebecca , and the narrative tells us, the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her (in biblical terms, to know is a euphemism for sexual relations).As for any child born to a single woman, he or she is not regarded as illegitimate (a mamzer ) or subject to social or religious disabilitiesPerez and Zerach, for example (and although their mother was a widow who was willingly impregnated by her fatherinlaw), were not counted as mamzerim (cf. Genesis 38:2430).Halakhah also contains rules related to protecting female virgins, and rules regarding premarital sex, rape, and the effects of each.Ancient Greece and RomeVirginity was often considered a virtue denoting purity and physical selfrestraint and is an important characteristic in Greek mythology .In ancient Greek literature such as the Homeric Hymns , there are references to the Parthenon goddesses Artemis , Athena , and Hestia proclaiming pledges to eternal virginity (Greek: ). 87 However, it has been argued a maidens state of parthenia (Greek: ), as invoked by these deities, carries a slightly different meaning from what is normally understood as virginity in modern western religions. 15 Rather, parthenia focused more on marriageability and abstract concepts without strict physical requirements which would be adversely affected, but not entirely relinquished, by premarital sexual intercourse. For these reasons, other goddesses not eternally committed to parthenia within the Homeric Hymns are able to renew theirs through ritual (such as Hera ) or choose an appearance which implies the possession of it (such as Aphrodite ). 87In Roman times, the Vestal Virgins were the highly respected, strictly celibate (although not necessarily virginal ) priestesses of Vesta , and keepers of the sacred fire of Vesta . The Vestals were committed to the priesthood before puberty (when 610 years old) and sworn to celibacy for a period of 30 years. 88 The chastity of the Vestals was considered to have a direct bearing on the health of the Roman state. Allowing the sacred fire of Vesta to die out, suggesting that the goddess had withdrawn her protection from the city, was a serious offence and was punishable by scourging. 89 Because a Vestals chastity was thought to be directly correlated to the sacred burning of the fire, if the fire were extinguished it might be assumed that a Vestal had been unchaste. The penalty for a Vestal Virgin found to have had sexual relations while in office was being buried alive . 88ChristianityMain articles: Christianity and sexuality and Catholic Church and women VirginityPaul the Apostle expressed the view that a persons body belongs to God and is Gods temple ( 1 Corinthians 6:13 , 3:16 ), and that premarital sex is immoral ( 1 Corinthians 6:18 ) on an equal level as adultery. ( 1 Corinthians 6:9 ) Paul also expressed the view in 1 Corinthians 7:17 that sexual abstinence is the preferred state for both men and women. However, he stated that sexual relations are expected between a married couple.According to classicist Evelyn Stagg and New Testament scholar Frank Stagg , the New Testament holds that sex is reserved for marriage. 90 They maintain that the New Testament teaches that sex outside of marriage is a sin of adultery if either of the participants is married, otherwise the sin of fornication if neither of the participants are married. An imperative given in 1Corinthians says, Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins people commit are outside their bodies, but those who sin sexually sin against their own bodies. 1 Cor 6:18 Those who are sexually immoral or adulterers are listed in 1Corinthians 6:9 in a list of wrongdoers who ... will not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19 and 1Corinthians 7:2 also address fornication. The Apostolic Decree of the Council of Jerusalem also includes a prohibition on fornication.Aquinas went further, emphasizing that acts other than copulation destroy virginity, and clarifying that involuntary sexual pleasure does not destroy virginity. From his Summa Theologica , Pleasure resulting from resolution of semen may arise in two ways. If this be the result of the minds purpose, it destroys virginity, whether copulation takes place or not. Augustine, however, mentions copulation, because such like resolution is the ordinary and natural result thereof. On another way this may happen beside the purpose of the mind, either during sleep, or through violence and without the minds consent, although the flesh derives pleasure from it, or again through weakness of nature, as in the case of those who are subject to a flow of semen. On such cases virginity is not forfeit, because such like pollution is not the result of impurity which excludes virginity. 91 92Virgo inter Virgines (The Blessed Virgin Mary with other holy virgins), from Bruges , Belgium during the last quarter of the 15th century.Some have theorized that the New Testament was not against sex before marriage. 93 The discussion turns on two Greek words moicheia (, adultery) and porneia (, fornication , see also pornography ). The first word is restricted to contexts involving sexual betrayal of a spouse however, the second word is used as a generic term for illegitimate sexual activity. Elsewhere in 1 Corinthians , incest, homosexual intercourse (according to some interpretations) 94 and prostitution are all explicitly forbidden by name (however, the Septuagint uses porneia to refer to male temple prostitution). Paul is preaching about activities based on sexual prohibitions in Leviticus , in the context of achieving holiness. The theory suggests it is these, and only these behaviors that are intended by Pauls prohibition in chapter seven. 95 The strongest argument against this theory is that the modern interpretation of the New Testament, outside Corinthians, speaks against premarital sex 96Christian orthodoxy accepts that Mary, the mother of Jesus , was a virgin at the time Jesus was conceived, based on the accounts in the Gospel of Matthew and the Gospel of Luke . 97 The Roman Catholic , Eastern Orthodox , and Oriental Orthodox Churches additionally hold to the dogma of the perpetual virginity of Mary . 98 99 100 However, most Protestants reject the dogma, citing sources such as Mark 6:3 : Isnt this the carpenter, the son of Mary, and the brother of James, Joses, Judas, and Simon? And arent His sisters here with us?. The Catholic Church holds 101 that in Semitic usage the terms brother, sister are applied not only to children of the same parents, but to nephews, nieces, cousins, halfbrothers, and halfsisters. Catholics, Orthodox Christians and other groups may refer to Mary as the Virgin Mary or the Blessed Virgin Mary .The Catholic Encyclopedia says: There are two elements in virginity: the material element, that is to say, the absence, in the past and in the present, of all complete and voluntary delectation, whether from lust or from the lawful use of marriage and the formal element, that is the firm resolution to abstain forever from sexual pleasure and that Virginity is irreparably lost by sexual pleasure, voluntarily and completely experienced. 102 However, for the purposes of consecrated virgins it is canonically enough that they have never been married or lived in open violation of chastity.IslamSee also: ZinaIslam considers extramarital sex to be sinful and forbidden. 4 Though Islamic law prescribes punishments for Muslim men and women for the act of zin, in practice it is an extremely difficult offense to prove, requiring four respectable witnesses to the actual act of penetration. Though in Western cultures premarital sex and loss of virginity may be considered shameful to the individual, in some Muslim societies an act of premarital sex, even if not falling within the legal standards of proof, may result in personal shame and loss of family honor . 4In some modernday largely Muslim societies such as Turkey , vaginal examinations for verifying a womans virginity are a clinical practice which are at times stateenforced. These types of examinations are typically ordered for women who go against traditional societal notions of public morality and rules of modesty, though in 1999 the Turkish penal code was altered to require a womans consent prior to performing such an examination. 103See also
TheCoitalAlignmentTechniqueFirst of all, some general advice.First, dont do this if you dont feel ready for it. Sex can be awful if you or she is just doing it because you think you should, or because you feel pressured into it. Youll know if its right for you. For one thing, youll be relaxed about it, and youll be able to talk to her about it. If youre not feeling ready, you dont have to go through with it!But if you are going to have sex, dont pretend youre an expert lover if youre not. This will just make things worse. Instead, talk to her tell her youre new at this and a bit nervous. Ask her how much experience shes had, unless you already know shes a virgin. If she knows more about sex than you do, ask her to help you. Theres no shame in this! On the other hand, if sex is new to you both, then you might just have to take the lead.....The key is to talk about it with your girl. Tell her its your first time. Is it her first time too? If shes had sex before, youre lucky, because she can help you (e.g. you could say Im not quite sure where I put my penis, but we could have fun finding out if you show me what to do!). Theres no point pretending you are an experienced lover if you arent!So, if you havent had sex before, youre in a loving relationship ok, you might just be good friends and youre both sure the time is right to do it, here are some ideas about first time sex.Start by talking about it. Sex is about as intimate as you can get with someone, but many people are often too embarrassed to talk about it. If you cant talk openly, then maybe you need to rethink your plans.As a man, no matter how important having sex for the first time may seem, just remember theres nothing lower than using it to get the approval of your friends so if youre thinking of spreading the word when youve done it, think again. Thats the action of a rat! Dont betray her trust. (That goes for her too, of course theres no way she should be talking about what you did in bed, or the size of your penis, once youve had sex. Unless shes telling everyone you have a massive cock. No, really, thats a joke.)Now, are you are both sure you want to go the whole way? There are alternatives mutual masturbation and oral sex are often just as satisfying, for example. Will you be able to do it in a loving way in a place where youll feel safe and comfortable? Take it from me, the back seat of an RV, SUV, jeep, car or truck isnt a great place for first time sex. The best is a nice warm bed. Preferably one where you can spend the night together afterwards. (Or at least few hours if its daytime.)Are you under the legal age for sex? If you are, does it matter to you? Do you want to have sex before marriage in other words, are there any religious or family reasons not to have sex? And lastly have you planned contraception and protection from sexually transmitted diseases? Have you got your condoms ready?Next, what you need to know depends on what youve already done together. Its great if youve masturbated each other (thats what used to be called heavy petting!). In that case, shell know what your penis looks like, and youll know what her pussy looks like. You might even know where her clitoris is. Hopefully.If youve enjoyed cunnilingus (thats what its called when you lick her pussy) or fellatio (thats when she takes your penis into her mouth), so much the better youve both had a close up view of the necessary organs. If you havent, have a look at Vulvavelvet.org to get some idea of what a vulva looks like and where her clitoris is to be found. BTW, the vulva is the external part of her sex organs I suppose what we call a pussy can mean either her vulva or her vagina. Her clitoris is the external bit of her sexual parts that gives her pleasure, and which will bring her to orgasm if you know how to play with it.Onwards and upwards....So, lets assume that youve answered all those questions, and youre going ahead with one of the most exciting and scary things youve ever done.Well, first of all, dont panic. You know when youre sexually aroused, for sure you get an erection when you kiss and cuddle. What you may not know is that when she gets aroused her vagina (pussy, if you prefer) gets moist and wet thats the female equivalent of your hardon, your hard penis. Her wetness lubricates the movement of your penis in her vagina after youve entered her.What you may not know is that when a womans sexually aroused, shell want you to put your penis in her vagina just as much as you want to put it in there. But she may take longer to get aroused than you do, so you need to spend some time kissing and cuddling first. Stroking her back, breasts and legs and telling her how attractive you find her (and telling her you love her if you really do) will all help in getting her aroused and ready for sex. So will giving her cunnilingus. BTW, telling her you love her, when you dont, just to get sex is another rats trick. So you wont do that, Im sure.Remember, the way you behave now can show how much of a man you really are. After all, you cant pregnant. Nor do you lose your virginity in the same way that she does. When she has sex for the first time, she gives her body to you in an act of complete trust. Sometimes shell have a thin membrane across her vaginal opening which is broken as your penis penetrates her. She may even bleed a little. This is a potent symbol of the way shes letting you into her body, the way shes letting you take her virginity. Its different for a man....So, to get you started, here is a good website to look at together. Although its aimed at women,its great for first time men as well. Scarleteen the first timeGetting it togetherWhen youre planning to have sex, an hour or two spent cuddling and kissing, gently touching each other in a loving way, is a good way to relax and get ready for the big moment.Before you actually have intercourse (meaning sex in which you put your penis in her vagina) you can give her an orgasm by playing with her clitoris and vulva with your fingers or mouth. You can also gently put your finger inside her vagina. All this will be very exciting, so itll probably turn you on, but it has another advantage as well when you finally put your penis inside her, youll actually know where it goes! A bit of research beforehand will make you feel much more confident when you get down to it!But be sure to respect any signs that shes uncomfortable with what youre doing. To really want sex, a woman must feel aroused and emotionally close to her man. Remember that a woman doesnt always know how shell feel about sex until shes in it. Disappointing as it may be for you, if she says she wants to stop at any time, youd better do so. Talking about whats happened may help, but if shes changed her mind, and she doesnt want to go all the way thats it, pal. You gotta stop. Have a wank instead.But if things go well, youll both be excited and ready to make love, and of course theres still the hurdle of that first penetration to get over. Preferably, youll both be naked, intimate, aroused, and in a comfortable setting together. When you think the time is right to try putting your penis inside her, you can say something like Id love to be inside you, Im so excited about making love to you. This helps make it special for her as well as you.At this stage, the most important thing to remember is that you need some effective contraception. There are too many unwanted babies in the world already. Dont add another. And in case you dont know already, your precome can contain sperm. This means you risk getting her pregnant even if you just put your penis in her and pull it out before you ejaculate. So dont try that!Instead, be ready, have your condoms at hand. Youll already have practiced putting them on and wanking with them so you know how to get one on and what it feels like. If you are both virgins, and shes on the pill, then you might decide not to use a condom. But if either of you has had sex with another person or if you dont have any other method of birth control YOU MUST USE A CONDOM!USE A CONDOM IF SHE ISNT ON THE PILL OR IF YOU ARE UNSURE OF EACH OTHERS SEXUAL HISTORY!The easiest sex position for your first time is where she lies on her back, and you support yourself over her, while facing her. This way you can kiss and hold each other, though youll have to support your weight on your arms to some extent.When you get ready to enter her, ask her to guide your penis (with or without condom) into her with her hand. Like I said before, this may be easier if you have spent some time gently playing with her vagina and vulva beforehand, so that you actually know where to put your penis.If it is also the first time for her, please remember that first time penetration will involve some degree of pain and most likely blood for her! Her vagina will simply be not used to extending itself to accommodate a penis. Also, most likely, you will tear her hymen probably the first time of entering her (though if no blood comes, then she might have torn the hymen already while doing sports). You might want to be sure she has an old towel underneath her hips, just in case you dont want to leave bloodstains behind. Please be sensitive to her pain and feelings. She might want you to stop, because of the pain, even if she has agreed to make love beforehand. If this happens, STOP! Just like you, she has the right at any time to change her mind without fearing negative consequences. If she wants you to stop, then this has nothing to do with her abilities as a lover, but more with her body needing to adjust to this new experience. By stopping you will give her a break and make sure you successfully continue your relationship together. And most girls will go for it, probably the next time, despite some degree of discomfort.If you do enter her, and its comfortable for both of you, you will find that moving your hips back and forth to move your penis in and out of her vagina is easy, instinctive and natural. Its also very exciting so much so that you may very well ejaculate quite soon after you enter her. Dont worry, this is normal, and not something to be upset about. Youll get better as you get more experience.Another nice idea is to wait a few minutes after youve ejaculated and then try having sex again. If you do, make sure you use another condom.All in all, the happiness of the experience is mostly down to you being relaxed and happy with each other. Most likely your first time wont feel as good as you hoped for, but you need to expect that. Great sex will come later! What is most important is that you like being together and feel no regret, shame or embarrassment about the experience. Most of all, enjoy yourself.And enjoy the sense of pride in your masculinity that will follow your first time. Youll soon know how good it is to be a man!Problems that can happen...Most young men are fairly quick to ejaculate when they make love for the first time, and indeed for the first part of their love life, rapid climax is likely to be the biggest concern for most men. But there are a number of men who have a different problem, known as delayed ejaculation, and these men, oddly enough, find it difficult to reach the point of ejaculation during sex. Although this may sound like a dream, it can in fact be very distressing for both the man and the woman. since sex continues without reaching its natural conclusion. The woman may become sore, irritable and wonder if she excites the man, while he may feel like a failure. (It is true some women are able to orgasm multiple times when their man is able to thrust without reaching orgasm too quickly. But this seems to be the minority of couples, and for most, delayed ejaculation is a pain in the ass! If you want to know how to treat delayed ejaculation, there is plenty of information on the link above.)Premature EjaculationMen think the most unappealing aspect of sex for women is the man ejaculating too soon (whatever that means) during sex, in other words, having premature ejaculation, commonly defined by a man attaining climax in less than two or three minutes after lovemaking commences. Unfortunately, very often lovers find themselves unable to talk about premature ejaculation, which adds to the difficulties.The good news is that a man who wishes to control his ejaculation can easily learn to please his partner in bed. Certainly a large percentage of men feel a great deal of shame and guilt about PE, most likely because they are anxious to please their woman sexually. Maybe this is simply because women can be left hanging, unsatisfied, after shortlived sex. This, together with the common male belief that most women will reach orgasm if sexual intercourse goes on for long enough, tends to mean that quick ejaculators would often really like to avoid premature ejaculation and know how to give a woman an orgasm.As for what most women really think about premature ejaculation, well, its far less challenging for them than the majority of men think. But its still difficult for both partners. For the man, ejaculating too quickly can a feeling of sexual shame and lack of sexual selfconfidence. For a woman, the absence of desirable masculine dominance which follows on from premature ejaculation may mean she cannot get the maximum sexual pleasure during lovemaking. Sometimes a man husband does not know how he can overcome premature ejaculation because his climax is upon him so quickly and he has no time to work out what to do to delay it. For a premature ejaculation treatment to be effective, a man must be able to apply it before sex begins, so he is prepared with strategies to enable him to last longer in bed moreover, it should be very easy to adapt the system to his particular needs and thirdly, when passion and high sexual arousal speed him to ejaculation with little time for control, the system needs to be one that both the man and his lover can use with complete determination and focus to help delay his ejaculation.Safe sexSafe sex isnt just about avoiding disease. Its about having sex where you feel safe, physically, emotionally and practically. You need to know what sexual behavior is safe, and whats not. 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25 Tips to Enjoy Anal Sex From Someone Who Loves ItDec 27, 2017by Irina GonzalezFood EditorIrina Gonzalez is an NYCbased freelance writer and the recipe developer behind Healthy Latin Food , where she shares her favorite recipes, healthy eating tips and how shes maintaining a 100 pound weight loss. Her work has appeared on La...If youre curious about anal sex, heres what you need to knowShareTumbleCombined comments shares on social mediaWhile anal sex is definitely more out there than it used to be, it still isnt exactly mainstream yet. Despite the fact that weve been experiencing a sexual revolution of sorts over the past couple of decades and feel more comfortable discussing acts that were previously taboo, the term anal sex is often still met with a cringe. Yup, war stories heard from friends have led many people to declare that hole an exit only zone.On the other hand, it seems that a ton of people are doing it: A review conducted on anal in 2010 confirmed that up to 40 percent of people have tried it at least once. And thanks to plugs, pegging, and toys, you dont need a person with a penis or another person at all, really, in order to try it.For every female weve heard of attempting anal sex, I also know at least half a dozen women who refuse to ever do it because of some awful anecdote or another. Typically it starts with a clueless partner trying to shove it in, hoping that theyll enjoy the experience only to have the event end in trauma and pain. Hows a person ever supposed to give anal sex another try when it feels that bad the first time?Ive been lucky enough to have the opposite encounters with anal sex. The first time I did it was with a steady boyfriend who happened to be experienced in getting women comfortable with butt stuff. Id even have fun, he promised. A little lube, some coaching and a lot of talking about it later, I was no longer an anal sex virgin. And I even enjoyed it!Since then, its become something that I order off the menu once in a while. Although I do have to seriously be in the mood for it, Ive had plenty of orgasms during anal sex . Recently, I even had a pretty powerful orgasm with analonly stimulation (meaning, he wasnt touching any other part of my body).More: 7 Car Sex Positions That Go Way Beyond MissionaryThis would all be perfectly fine behind closed doors, but I was pretty shocked to see an episode of The Mindy Project with some pretty negative (and unrealistic) things to say about anal sex. In I Slipped, Mindys boyfriend Danny tries the surprise approach and she is, of course, shocked. When she goes to her friend Peter for advice, he gives her a few tips on sex positions before admitting that no woman ever will enjoy butt action. The show doesnt go on to correct this sexist remark, as Mindy has to take a heavy sedative later on to give it another try.In light of this seriously damaging view, we decided to give you a few tips on how you actually can enjoy anal sex. And no, it doesnt make you a perv to own your sexuality.1. Dont go straight for penetration. First and foremost, invest time in the foreplay. You should be highly aroused before going there, and having an orgasm (or three) beforehand never hurt either.2. A glass of wine and romance can help. Dont just decide to do it and go for it. While you dont want to drink so much that you get too numb, a drink or two to relax may be just what you both need.3. Try getting to know yourself first. Just as with any good sex, trying something yourself first may help you relax. Try gently massaging the outer opening of your anus next time you are masturbating.4. Yes, you might feel really naughty. We all know that this is a bit of a taboo subject, and its OK to feel a bit weird, dirty or uncomfortable doing it. Its natural, but its also 100 percent natural to experiment.5. Its a mess. Dark sheets help. Yes, were talking about your butt and things can get a little messy. If youre shy or scared, use dark sheets to keep things from getting too weird looking later.More: 11 Clitoris Facts Youll Think About the Next Time You Have Sex6. External stimulation at first. Just as when you tried it yourself, have your partner start by gently massaging the outside of the anus. Start slow and have him pause when you start to feel funny.7. Be sure to stock up on lube. The most important part is to have good lube that you trust, and be sure to use it on both yourself and whatever will be penetrating you for maximum ease. Waterbased lubricants work great.8. The rules about using condoms. If your partner has a penis and is using it, you must use a condom. And you absolutely must switch condoms in between vaginal and anal penetration.9. Relax, but yes it might hurt a bit. Youre reading this because you dont want it to hurt, right? Well, I promise itll be OK but yes, it might hurt a bit at the start. The key is to pause as you need to.10. Get ready to take full control. This one is key, OK? You are the one that needs to be in control. This is a different experience for you, and you need to gently guide your partner in, not the other way around.A version of this article was originally published in October 2014.1 of 2
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