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25 Tips to Enjoy Anal Sex From Someone Who Loves ItDec 27, 2017by Irina GonzalezFood EditorIrina Gonzalez is an NYCbased freelance writer and the recipe developer behind Healthy Latin Food , where she shares her favorite recipes, healthy eating tips and how shes maintaining a 100 pound weight loss. Her work has appeared on La...If youre curious about anal sex, heres what you need to knowShareTumbleCombined comments shares on social mediaWhile anal sex is definitely more out there than it used to be, it still isnt exactly mainstream yet. Despite the fact that weve been experiencing a sexual revolution of sorts over the past couple of decades and feel more comfortable discussing acts that were previously taboo, the term anal sex is often still met with a cringe. Yup, war stories heard from friends have led many people to declare that hole an exit only zone.On the other hand, it seems that a ton of people are doing it: A review conducted on anal in 2010 confirmed that up to 40 percent of people have tried it at least once. And thanks to plugs, pegging, and toys, you dont need a person with a penis or another person at all, really, in order to try it.For every female weve heard of attempting anal sex, I also know at least half a dozen women who refuse to ever do it because of some awful anecdote or another. Typically it starts with a clueless partner trying to shove it in, hoping that theyll enjoy the experience only to have the event end in trauma and pain. Hows a person ever supposed to give anal sex another try when it feels that bad the first time?Ive been lucky enough to have the opposite encounters with anal sex. The first time I did it was with a steady boyfriend who happened to be experienced in getting women comfortable with butt stuff. Id even have fun, he promised. A little lube, some coaching and a lot of talking about it later, I was no longer an anal sex virgin. And I even enjoyed it!Since then, its become something that I order off the menu once in a while. Although I do have to seriously be in the mood for it, Ive had plenty of orgasms during anal sex . Recently, I even had a pretty powerful orgasm with analonly stimulation (meaning, he wasnt touching any other part of my body).More: 7 Car Sex Positions That Go Way Beyond MissionaryThis would all be perfectly fine behind closed doors, but I was pretty shocked to see an episode of The Mindy Project with some pretty negative (and unrealistic) things to say about anal sex. In I Slipped, Mindys boyfriend Danny tries the surprise approach and she is, of course, shocked. When she goes to her friend Peter for advice, he gives her a few tips on sex positions before admitting that no woman ever will enjoy butt action. The show doesnt go on to correct this sexist remark, as Mindy has to take a heavy sedative later on to give it another try.In light of this seriously damaging view, we decided to give you a few tips on how you actually can enjoy anal sex. And no, it doesnt make you a perv to own your sexuality.1. Dont go straight for penetration. First and foremost, invest time in the foreplay. You should be highly aroused before going there, and having an orgasm (or three) beforehand never hurt either.2. A glass of wine and romance can help. Dont just decide to do it and go for it. While you dont want to drink so much that you get too numb, a drink or two to relax may be just what you both need.3. Try getting to know yourself first. Just as with any good sex, trying something yourself first may help you relax. Try gently massaging the outer opening of your anus next time you are masturbating.4. Yes, you might feel really naughty. We all know that this is a bit of a taboo subject, and its OK to feel a bit weird, dirty or uncomfortable doing it. Its natural, but its also 100 percent natural to experiment.5. Its a mess. Dark sheets help. Yes, were talking about your butt and things can get a little messy. If youre shy or scared, use dark sheets to keep things from getting too weird looking later.More: 11 Clitoris Facts Youll Think About the Next Time You Have Sex6. External stimulation at first. Just as when you tried it yourself, have your partner start by gently massaging the outside of the anus. Start slow and have him pause when you start to feel funny.7. Be sure to stock up on lube. The most important part is to have good lube that you trust, and be sure to use it on both yourself and whatever will be penetrating you for maximum ease. Waterbased lubricants work great.8. The rules about using condoms. If your partner has a penis and is using it, you must use a condom. And you absolutely must switch condoms in between vaginal and anal penetration.9. Relax, but yes it might hurt a bit. Youre reading this because you dont want it to hurt, right? Well, I promise itll be OK but yes, it might hurt a bit at the start. The key is to pause as you need to.10. Get ready to take full control. This one is key, OK? You are the one that needs to be in control. This is a different experience for you, and you need to gently guide your partner in, not the other way around.A version of this article was originally published in October 2014.1 of 2
How to have anal sexFAST FACTSAnal sex is enjoyed by many people straight, gay and bisexual.Unprotected anal sex carries a higher risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) than many other sexual activities. Using a condom correctly will help protect you and your partner.Use lots of lubricant! But only use waterbased lubricant which is specially designed for sexual intercourse. Oilbased lubricants can cause condoms to break.Starting slowly by exploring the anal area and using smaller objects like fingers and sex toys will increase pleasure and help avoid pain.If you are having oral sex or vaginal sex straight after anal sex put on a new condom to avoid cross infection.Anal sex is any type of sexual activity that involves the anal area and many people, whether they are heterosexual, gay or bisexual, enjoy it. Whether you are thinking of having anal sex for the first time, or you just want more information on how to stay safe and enjoy it, this page will help answer your questions.What is anal sex?Most commonly, people think of anal sex as when a mans penis enters the anus. However, it might also mean using fingers or sex toys to penetrate the anus, or using the tongue to stimulate the anus (called rimming). You can read more about oralanal sex on our How to have oral sex page.Anyone can enjoy anal sex, whether they are a man, woman, gay, bisexual or straight, and whether they are giving or receiving it.How do you have anal sex?It can feel strange when you start exploring the anal area during sex, so start slowly with touching and caressing to get used to the idea. If you dont like it, its a good idea to talk to your partner and explain that anal sex isnt for you. While lots of people enjoy it, many others would prefer to leave it out of their sexual activities.If you decide to have penetrative anal sex, take things slowly and communicate with your partner. If you are giving anal sex, use plenty of lubricant and then start by penetrating just a little and then pulling out completely. When your partner is ready, penetrate a bit further and then pull out again. Continue with this until you are fully in but be prepared to stop at any time if the other person is uncomfortable or in pain.Anal sex can feel stimulating and pleasurable for both the person giving and receiving but it can also take a while to get used to the sensation of it. If it doesnt go perfectly the first time you can always try again when youre both in the mood. Remember that you can pause or stop at any point you want. Just because you have started something doesnt mean you need to continue stopping is actually very normal.Anal sex, HIV and STI safetyWhether youre a man or a woman, straight or gay, its important to protect yourself against the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV, when having anal sex.The lining of the anus is thin and can easily be damaged, which makes it more vulnerable to infection. This means that if you are the receptive partner (often called the bottom) you have a higher risk of STIs and HIV from unprotected anal sex than many other types of sexual activity.While the risk is less for the top (or insertive partner), HIV can still enter through the opening at the top of the penis (urethra), or through cuts, scratches and sores on the penis.STIs that can be passed on during anal sex include:Syphilis.Using protection during anal sex is important to reduce your risk of catching an STI. For penetrative sex, make sure you use a condom and lots of lube some people feel safer using extrathick condoms for anal sex, and dental dams also offer good protection for rimming.You can use either a male condom or female condom for anal sex, depending on your preference. The female condom is inserted into the anus before sex, just as it would be used in the vagina.Its a good idea to put condoms on any sex toys you are using for anal sex too, making sure you change them between partners and use a fresh one if you use the toys to stimulate the vagina afterwards. This is because the material of some sex toys may harbour bacteria and infections even after cleaning (though not HIV).If youve had unprotected anal sex and are worried about possible HIV infection, go and see your healthcare professional straight away. You may be able to take postexposure prophylaxis (PEP) to prevent HIV infection, but it has to be taken within 72 hours to be effective. However, PEP is not a replacement for condoms and isnt available everywhere. Love your lubricationUnlike the vagina, the anus doesnt produce its own lubrication (or lube), so its important to use a good product to help the penis or sex toy move freely and prevent damage to the inside of the anus.Dont use your partners semen (also known as cum) as a lubricant. Its best to use a waterbased lubricant which has been specially designed for sexual intercourse. Oilbased lubricants (such as lotion and moisturiser) can weaken condoms and make them more likely to break.Is anal sex painful?For lots of people anal sex is a pleasurable part of their sex life. However, whether you are a man or a woman, penetrative anal sex can be uncomfortable or even painful if rushed, especially if its your first time.Luckily, there are things you can do to lessen any pain. These include going slowly, working your way up to penetration with the penis with smaller objects such as fingers or sex toys, and using a lot of waterbased lubrication.Continual communication as you progress is the best way to make sure you both enjoy anal sex. If at any time you are feeling strong pain then you should stop immediately.Gay men and anal sexGay men can enjoy a range of different sexual activities, including oral sex , kissing and touching each other, as well as penetrative anal sex. Being gay doesnt mean you have to have anal sex though you decide what you enjoy.Many men also like having their prostate stimulated. The prostate is a walnutsized gland located just below the bladder and is highly sensitive to stimulation (usually gentle finger stimulation through the anus). However, there are many blood vessels in and around the prostate and it can get bruised if handled roughly, so always treat it gently and use lots of lube.I thought that all that men did in bed together was anal sex, but noone has ever tried to force me to have penetrative sex. Its much more of a loving, caring thing than I thought, too. PeterSafety for women having anal sexBe careful not to use the same finger to stimulate a womans anus as you use to touch her vagina. This is because you could transfer small amounts of faeces to the vagina which can cause urinary tract infections such as cystitis.The same goes for using a finger to stimulate the anus and then putting it in the mouth, as this can pass on STIs such as hepatitis and shigella.If you have anal sex and then move onto vaginal sex or oral sex you should use a fresh condom to prevent these infections. The same applies if you are using sex toys.Technically, its not possible to get pregnant from anal sex as theres no way for semen to get from the rectum into the vagina. Be aware that there is a small chance of semen leaking out and dripping into the vagina after anal sex. Using condoms is the best way to make sure you are always protected properly against pregnancy.Should I have anal sex?As with any type of sex, its important that both people are enthusiastic about having anal sex and that no one is feeling pressured or forced into doing anything they dont want to do.Talk to your partner about protection before you start having anal sex to help things go more smoothly. Remember that having unprotected anal sex puts you and your partner at higher risk of HIV and other STIs such as hepatitis A and shigella than other sexual activities. Being safe will help you both feel more relaxed and make sex more enjoyable.Deciding whether to have anal sex is a very personal thing. The main things to consider are whether it feels right, and whether you and your partner are both sure. Our article Am I ready for sex? will help you think about this.iStock.comnicoblue. Photos are used for illustrative purposes. They do not imply any health status or behaviour on the part of the people in the photo.
Getty ImagesAdvertisement Continue Reading BelowI am about to say something unpleasant but important: The first time you have a finger in your ass, it feels like you have a finger in your ass. What did you think it would feel like?Actually, the first five, 10, possibly 20 times, it feels like you have a finger in your ass. But at a certain point, if everything goes right, itll feel like you have a finger in your ass accompanied by a spontaneous enhanced uNiCoRn oRgAsM. Its hard to know, because everybodys different, and that includes each buttholefingerers individual skill. So many women have bad firsttime experiences and never want to do it again. Some guy shoved it in without preparing for the action, explains sexpert Dr. Emily Morse .If youre dating a sexually asscentric person, rather than a breast or leg or foot or right earlobe person, theyll probably want to give you many ButtholePleasures. A good way to tell if youre dating someone asscentric is if they request belfies, always want to have sex doggystyle, or try repeatedly to touch your asshole. You should never, ever do something you vehemently dont want to do just because your partner wants to, and if youre not ready for fullon anal sex, tell them.But (BUTT! Ugh, sorry), if you want to experiment in that general area, here are some things to know about Base Camp 1, which consists of the stepping stones to anal sex: Fingers (anal fingering) and tongue (rimming, salad tossing, analingus).1. It shouldnt hurt. This is where lube comes in. It should basically just feel like you might need to poop. You dont! (I hope you dont.) Relax your muscles, and breathe, advises Dr. Emily . Use a lot of waterbased lubricant .2. Start small. The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working your way up. To prepare a bottom for sex play, start with fingers, tongue, or a very small sex toy designed for butt play, says clinical sexologoist Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce . An option is to purchase a Butt Plug Kit that uses several plugs, of graduating sizes, just for this training.Advertisement Continue Reading Below3. The person doing it should err on the shallow side. Everything that goes in should be just the tip. The nerve endings youre trying to stimulate are in the anus hence the moniker rimming and not all the way up there, which is generally the painful part and also the part that makes you feel like you need to take a huge dump. Imagine it like a basketball hoop, and the ball should just be rolling around the rim of the basket, not actually making the basket. Does that help? I know nothing about basketball.4. There shouldnt be any rapidfire movement immediately. Vigorous jamming of fingers anywhere should not happen immediately. So much of sex is fast especially in porn but anal play has to be prepped, says Morse.5. You can vary up positions. No, not all butt stuff needs to be done doggy style. Its true it might be a little harder to get some solid eyecontact going on when facetoanus things are happening. But! There are a variety of positions to try, like lying on your back with your hips elevated, or sitting on his face in reverse cowgirl. Move around until you find one that makes you feel most at ease.6. Communication is key. The only way to know what works and what doesnt is to be totally honest with you partner about what theyre doing. Dr. Pierce stresses the importance of always being tuned in to how the other is feeling and being vocal about your preferences.7. Its not dirty. As clinical sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk says , the anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little fecal material in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty as you think.Advertisement Continue Reading BelowAdvertisement Continue Reading Below8. That being said, you can totally clean things up. The key to anal play is comfort, so do whatever you need to help with any lingering anxiety. Using an anal douche is not harmful if only done once in awhile and might help you relax your concerns about your bowels, advises Dr. Pierce. You can use something as simple as warm water for a quick cleanse too.9. It feels best when theres some additional stimulation going on. Vaginal, clitoral, nipplecentric whichever feels best for you. While some women only need butt play la carte, most women cant come from anal stimulation alone. The anal part is something thats an accent. It adds to the overall experience, says Ian Kerner , sex expert, researcher, and author of She Comes First: The Thinking Mans Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. (Incidentally, women who have had anal sex report more frequent orgasms than those who havent.) That being said ...10. Make sure your partner doesnt use the same butt finger in your vagina afterward. Why do you think The Shocker exists? Necessity is the mother of invention. Baby wipes should be mandatory on every nightstand, says Morse.11. If you try it a few times and hate it, dont keep trying it because you think itll eventually be tolerable. Assuming you have a considerate lover whos invested in you feeling good, I think youd know within the first five times whether you like it or not, says Kerner, explaining that this depends on a variety of factors. Ive encountered women who hated receiving oral sex initially but love it now, and it was because they were selfconscious. It depends on your levels of inhibition, your feelings about your partner, your feelings about your body. If all these things are good to go, and you just dont like the sensation, youll know pretty fast.Advertisement Continue Reading Below12. You dont need to get a wax. Most women dont get Brazilians simply to engage in anal foreplay, says Kerner, based on his research. Yep.In conclusion, Sunset, a user on this weird forum I found while trying to gather more seasoned ButtholeWisdom for you guys, says: if you are very feeling good with your patner sic and you know him or her very well, i think its a very lovely situation.I agree with Sunset.This post was originally published in 2014 and has been updated.Follow Anna on Twitter .
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tweetThere are a lot of presuppositions and myths about anal sex: Men want it more. Its not pleasurable for her. Everyones doing it apart from you. Theres no such thing as an anal orgasm. So on and so forth.These sex myths are demonstrably untrue all they do is expose the fact that people dont talk about anal sex (oral , penetrative, or otherwise) well enough, because its still relatively taboo in mainstream conversation.But why should this be? As part of a loving relationship, or even as part of a brief and hot encounter, anal sex has a lot to offer. Not to mention, the relative taboo nature of anal is part of its appeal for many participants.There are two tricky obstacles to overcome. First, how do you initiate it when you want it and second, how do you make anal sex more enjoyable for both partners ?Initiating Anal Sex: ReceivingWhen you decide youre ready to receive anal sex, you need to be in control of it from start to finish. That means you need to make it obvious that you want it, because your partner might be too uncertain to initiate it without your express permission.The easiest way to tell your partner you want anal sex is, well, to tell them you want anal.Many people arent so good at picking up dropped hints or reading the subtlety of your body language, so telling them directly and explicitly that you want it is the only failsafe approach, plus it means youre able to talk about things like possible boundaries, previous experiences, etc.Read More Now, there are two ways to go about this. You can ask your partner explicitly while youre already having sex, which many people might find feels more comfortable and natural. However, it doesnt exactly make it easy to have an extended conversation about the aforementioned boundaries or reservations you may have if youre an anal sex beginner.You can bring it up before hand through flirty texting or emailing, which certainly sets up the anticipation, however it does have two possible drawbacks: one, you may no longer be in the mood when it comes to it, and two, they might think thats all you want, so theyll focus on that and leave the rest of your body wanting.Another approach, particularly as you get more comfortable with anal sex, is to tell your partner by showing start with self stimulation (or guiding your partners hand) or using a small vibrator made for anal play (ie: has a flared base).If youre trying pegging for the first time and your partner is not used to thrusting, this is a great time to talk about how you usually have sex, and what you think could work and what wouldnt.Initiating Anal Sex: GivingDoes anal sex hurt? Yes, it can. But is anal sex pleasurable? Yes, potentially. But you need to approach it sensitively.It should go without saying, but if your partner hasnt initiated it or said outright that they are open to trying anal sex, you need to ask.Generally speaking, anal stimulation during sex can be somewhat divisive, and just going for it is not okay.So exactly as above, there are several options available: ask them directly during sex or foreplay, bring it up beforehand via text or email, or show your partner what you want by paying their butt some extra attention during foreplay and gauging the reaction.One of our favorite sex positions for initiating anal sex is in the spooning position. Youre both comfy and relaxed with all bodyweight is supported. Then pull out of her and rub yourself against them theyll quickly acknowledge whether its ok or not without having to break the mood.But remember, there are no shortcuts and nothing beats good, honest bedroom communication and good dirty talk does count as good communication.Make Anal Sex More PleasurableWhile there are those rare times that, like stars aligning, the mood will strike both of you simultaneously and youll have the most incredible and satisfying anal sex imaginable, usually there is some preparation required.Remember that if youre receiving anal sex (of the penetrative or oralanal variety ), you need to be in control of it, to whatever degree you want. You will need to control the speed and he will need to listen to you, otherwise it will be uncomfortable and it will stop. The opportunity might be lost until some trust can be rebuilt.Here are 4 things to try to help make anal sex better.Read More Position. You already know that all positions are not created equal, so explore some of the anal sex positions that are best for beginners , as they let the receiver take more control.Lube.You probably already know that lube or a highquality intimate moisturizer is essential for anal sex. The more the better. Apply enough to squeeze a manatee through a letterbox, and then apply more.The more lube involved, the more pleasurable it will be for both of you. Its as simple as that.Condoms. Condoms are great for anal , and not only because they enhance your sexual safety. Condoms actually make anal sex better because their smoothness responds better to lube than skin does. Condoms glide easier, and as a result are more comfortable. Whats more, they can help prevent the thrusting partner from climaxing too soon too.Anal Sex Toys.Even anal sex experts find a warm up to penetrative sex handy, so introducing some anal toys like a butt plug or vibrating prostate massager during foreplay can help ease the transition into anal sex. As a reminder though, any toy that is used anally should have a flared base to avoid it accidentally disappearing inside you, and anything used anally needs to be washed or covered with a clean condom before being used in another orifice. During anal sex, try stimulating your clit or other erogenous zones with a vibrator while youre having sex to double the intensity of the sensations and build up to a really fulfilling orgasm.To Sum UpThe most important part of enjoying better anal sex, or any kind of sex for that matter, is talking. The most sensitive erogenous zone is between the ears, stimulate that one and the sex will always be mindblowing.Still Curious? 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A Complete Beginners Guide to Anal SexRaise high the butthole, carpenters. (If you are my parents, do not read this.)Nov 20, 2017Getty ImagesIn 1977, Cat Stevens retired from music and underwent a dramatic conversion to become a religious Muslim named Yusuf Islam. I can totally relate to this now, because before I used to say Id never have butt sex and then this weekend I had it.A few years ago, I was so adamant about never having it that I had the following conversation with my thenroommate, Ben. Reality Bites, which I despise, was on TV.Advertisement Continue Reading BelowI really hate this movie more than anything in the world, I said.Even more than butt sex? (We had discussed my terror of anal before.) Like if you had to choose whether you were gonna watch Reality Bites or have anal sexI would rather have anal sex. The ranking is like, everything, and then anal sex, and then watching Reality Bites is dead last.But that was when I was slightly younger, closedminded, and very single which allowed me to make sweeping generalizations about things Id Never Do without being challenged on them. The riskreturn ratio of anal sex seemed very lopsided (Return: The guy youre dating thinks youre cool, or whatever? Risk: Pooping on a penis.) But now that Im someones girlfriend, it turns out that when you really like someone, youre more willing to try things you never thought youd try. Like watching Jason Statham movies and camping and losing the final and only virginity that youve retained since AfterProm.1. Dont try it if you dont want to. Theres a big difference between I dont necessarily fantasize about getting a penis enema but I want to blow my partners mind and I would rather die than do this but I guess I can suffer through it because hes been pressuring me. If youre in a mutually caring, healthy relationship (with a guy who goes down on you for half an hour, minimum), maybe youll want to do it for your partner or you wont. Either way is 100 percent fine, and if he keeps pressuring you when you have made it clear that it is not on the table, tell him to suck it.2. Even if youre monogamous, a condom is probably a good idea. It prevents bacteria from the bowels spreading anywhere. (I know, you really wanna fuck now.) Sexpert Dr. Emily Morse advises keeping baby wipes on the nightstand and to never use the same condom going from vaginal to anal and back again. For obvious reasonspoopy vagina .Advertisement Continue Reading Below3. The right lube is twice as important as it is when having vaginal sex, which is already superimportant. You might have heard that too much lube takes away the friction that makes it feel good for the dude. Thats bullshit. There is no such thing as too much lube , because it makes it feel slightly less like you are using your butthole as a handbag for a flashlight.4. Between thin waterbased lubes (like Astroglide ) and thicker ones ( KY ), go with the thicker ones, because they dont dry out as quickly. In sex educator Tristan Taorminos crazyhelpful Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women , she mentions that Crisco has been a favorite of the LGBT community for a long time, but its bad to use with condoms because it can eventually poke tiny holes in the latex.The oilbased ones are also pretty annoying to get off afterwards. We used Vaseline, but my boyfriend later realized that it deadens sensation on the skin, which was obviously helpful for my asshole but bad for his orgasm. So maybe dont do that, or start with a bit of that but then switch, because itll take really long for your partner to come, if they even can.5. Getting the tip in hurts the most, because the head of the penis is the widest part. Once youre past that and up to the shaft, itll feel a little better. Remember how much regular sex hurt at first, for some of us? (Unless I guess the guys shaft is the same width as his head, in which case are you guys gonna break up when he has to go back to Xaviers Academy for Gifted Youngsters?)6. Relax your PC muscles as much as possible. Relaxing and constricting the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles is like the anal version of doing Kegels . You can worry about that later on right now just let your butthole muscles go, like youre about to poop (you wont, probably).Advertisement Continue Reading BelowAdvertisement Continue Reading Below7. Youre going to freak the fuck out that youre pooping but youre not. Honestly, it becomes hard to tell if you are or arent additionally, this Tucker Max story was not helpful for my butt sexphobia. Youre probably not gonna poop. If theres a little bit of poop, as my partner said, its not a big deal, because he asked for this. (There wasnt.)8. You can lie flat on your stomach, get in doggystyle, or do missionary and that is the order of what will hurt the least to the most. At least, in my (minimal) experience. You can tear your anus if you use a certain position that allows for more penetration before youre ready, and Taormino points out that the missionary position allows for the least clitoral stimulation and suggests receiverontop for beginners. Insertive partners who are inexperienced, nervous about how to penetrate their partners anally, or fearful of hurting their partners may find this position most relaxing because the receiver can do much of the decisionmaking and work.Dont worry about disappointing him by wanting to go slow and gently. Youre not being a buzzkill whos squashing his porninfluenced fantasies of pounding the shit out of a girls butt. You are being an awesome and selfless (if butt sex is not on your list of musthave sex) partner.9. Like peeing immediately after sex to avoid a UTI, its good to go to the bathroom right after youre done. Youll also probably feel like you have to anyway. You have also opened yourself up to the joy of butt queefs. Theyre not farts, no matter what anyone says. Unlike frontal queefs, they might go on for a few hours as the air escapes. On the bright side, you are a human beatbox, and your partner can lay a sick freestyle over the top if she feels so inclined.Advertisement Continue Reading Below10. If you despise it, never do it again. It shouldnt take you a few hellish rounds to finally decide its not for you. If you hate it, you hate it, and that is fine. I didnt hate it, and it was psychologically gratifying to watch my partners mind being blown. Id do it again as a special occasion thing, like on our anniversary, or Flag Day.I still hate Reality Bites.Advertisement Continue Reading BelowPin this image to save it for later!Gallery Stock
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